The Secret to a Happy Marriage

Family Matters on 01.10.12
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In our busy world of child-rearing and working, it's easy to let your relationship with your spouse take a back seat. Keep in mind that children grow up and have their own lives and jobs come and go, but presumably you would like to spend the rest of your life with the person you chose to marry. That means making sure your marriage remains a happy one.

According to a recent study by the University of Virginia's National Marriage Project, what you need for a happy marriage is a bit of kindness in your relationship. In a survey of 2870 couples they asked questions in three areas: Did spouses offer small kindnesses to each other? Did they regularly express affection? Were they able to forgive? As Sarah Hampson writes in The Globe and Mail "As a culture we underrate the importance of kindness in our romantic relationships...the study shows that it's not the big displays of affection but rather the small, frequent, even mundance ones that matter.

So when Alex Martinez said her resolution for 2012 was to say something nice to her husband every day to help strengthen her marriage, she was absolutely spot on. Go ahead, open the car door for your wife, make your husband a cup of tea, anything. Just do something nice for your spouse today.

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