How to Know When It's Time for Another Baby

Family Matters on 01.31.12
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A few weeks ago, fellow blogger Sami Grover wrote a post on whether having a second baby is harder or easier. It's great information for someone who is ready to have a second (or third or fourth) child, but how do you know -- for sure -- that it's time to expand the family? Simple answer: It's a question only you can answer.

I'd love to be able to tell you when it's time or when you'll know for sure. I'd love to be able to tell myself that answer, too. But just like the decision to have a first child, the decision to have a second is yours alone. For most of us, there will never be enough time in the day or money in the bank to make this an easy decision. But there can definitely be enough love in the heart and room in the family to bring a second (or third or fourth) baby into the fold.

I can tell you that there will be challenges and triumphs. There will be good times and bad. And there will be giggles and tears. But that's parenthood, whether you have one child or 20. I have friends that didn't waste much time between children. They wanted the siblings to be close in age and to get the dirty work (read: diapers) over in the shortest amount of time. And I have others that decided to take their time having a second. And I know that each did what was best for their family and haven't regretted a moment since.

It's been on our minds a lot lately, and we're still in the back and forth mode. We definitely want another child (or several more!), but knowing when is a totally different story. And if you happen to be surprised by your next little angel, let your plans go and embrace the fact that there was a different plan for your family all along. Look at it this way: The decision was made for you, so just go with it.

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