The First 5 Things You Need to Do When You Get a Positive Pregnancy Test

Family Matters on 09.11.12
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There is a moment in every mother's life that is unlike any other: that moment when she makes the decision to take a pregnancy test and finds out it is positive. Whether it is a planned pregnancy, a long awaited pregnancy or a complete surprise and no matter if it is your first pregnancy or your fifth, that moment is full of a slew of emotions combined with a seemingly unending list of questions, and it's easy to become completely overwhelmed very quickly. But before you get too caught up in worrying about what your favorite names are or how you want to decorate the nursery, here are the first five things you need to do when you get that incredibly exciting news.

1. Cry, Shout, Let It Out!

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Besides the fact that your hormones are starting to go wild, next to meeting your child, this is one of the biggest moments of your life. It's the beginning of a new family or going to change the family you have in a major way. For some it is something you have dreamed of for years or even decades, and for others it may be something you never planned on or expected. Don't bottle up your emotions. Jump for joy, cry your eyes out, or do whatever else it is that your emotions are telling you to do (as long as it's safe).

2. Tell the Father

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While you may be the one whose body is about to go through a major change, your husband or significant other is also in for big changes and has a lot to prepare for. If he's not with you, then prepare to tell him as soon as you possibly can, and if you can do it in person, wait to do so as it's a very special moment. If the father of your child isn't able to support you emotionally, find a confidant who can as being pregnant is no easy thing to go alone.

3. Make a Doctor's Appointment

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It may surprise you, but many doctors won't want to see you until you are somewhere around five to seven weeks pregnant. However, it's a good idea to call the doctor and get an appointment as soon as you have a positive pregnancy test. If you don't have a regular obstetrician, do some research online or discreetly through your social networks and be sure to take into consideration what hospital the doctor has privileges at as that is where you'll deliver your baby.

4. Keep it a Secret from Everyone Else

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With news this big, there is no doubt you'll want to shout it from the rooftops or at least call your mom and your best friends, but do your best to put on the brakes to that idea if you can. While you'll be incredibly excited to tell your loved ones and it's a very hard secret to keep, it's also a good idea to at least get through your first doctor's appointment when you can confirm that you are off to a healthy and viable pregnancy before sharing the news with the world. It's also a time you should cherish with your baby's father. Take the time to process this change that is coming in your life and to make some decisions like whether you want to find out the baby's gender before you start getting bombarded with questions from everyone you see. Once you tell one person, the news will start to travel very fast so savor the time that it's just for you to know.

5. Buy a Pregnancy Health Book

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A pregnancy brings a lot of changes to both your lifestyle and your body. Get yourself a pregnancy book as soon as possible so that you know what you should have (multi-vitamins, folic acid, sleep) and should not have (alcohol, tobacco, deli meats) as well as so that you have a reference to determine if what you're feeling is "normal." A good one will give you an idea of what you should expect at each week of pregnancy, tell you what you should look out for as warning signs of any problem, and give you the guidelines for creating a healthy pregnancy for the nine months ahead.

It may be both terrifying and exciting, but you're at the beginning of the most amazing, most difficult, and most rewarding journey of your life. You're sure to have a busy nine months of preparing for your new bundle of joy to arrive, but there is plenty of time to get all of that done. When you first get the news, try to sit back, soak it all in, and enjoy this incredible moment.  

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