Spice Up Your Cooking Life...with Sex

Chow on 05.23.11
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In a recent article on Slate, Michael Ruhlman argues that we could and should be cooking more, and also having more sex.  At the same time.

The article is actually an excerpt from Ruhlman's new book, A Man with a Pan: Culinary Adventures for Fathers who Cook for their Families.  In the piece, the author starts off with a recipe for roast chicken which, while quite basic, includes a step not found in most conventional cookbooks. While the bird is in the oven, the cook and his or her partner are encouraged to make sweet love as the aroma of sizzling poultry permeates the boudoir.

The author transitions from a cheeky chicken recipe into a serious treatise on the importance of couples with kids making time for intimacy. In addition to the roast chicken/nookie combo, he recommends taking a long weekday lunch a couple times a month that includes enough time for a leisurely nooner.  

I have to say that, in theory, I'm all for this kind of multi-tasking.  It strikes a balance between practical and decadent that really appeals to my sense of harmony.

But in terms of the real possibility of following his recommendations?  I'm skeptical that many of us could find time for such luxury.  As a stay-at-home dad of twin toddlers, if I could actually get it together to get something into the oven while the kids were napping, and if my wife were somehow home from work during that period, I would still need the roasting time to recover from the previous period of wakefulness, and prepare for the next one.  

Ruhlman does stipulate that he's suggesting the simultaneous roasting/sexy-time and extended lunch tryst for couples whose kids are regularly occupied outside of the house.  But still--my friends with older kids seem to be even busier than we are, what with all the shuttling around of their kids to their extracurricular activities.  And as for the delicious lunchtime romp?  Who has a job that would allow for a 3-hour break in the middle of the day? 

It seems to me that Ruhlman is essentially exhorting us to push the mundane chores and responsibilities of the parenting life to the back burner every once in a while to make time for romance.  That's sound, if commonplace, advice.  But as with most articles that tell me what I should be doing with the time that I am apparently wasting by--I don't know--staring at a chicken as it roasts, this one made me bristle just slightly, but mostly roll my eyes.

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